Frosted mountain wings
ripple across horizons.
Silver winter clings.
Frosted mountain wings
ripple across horizons.
Silver winter clings.
These found poems are based on the real letters of Annie Mackay. She spent her brief life working the small family croft in a remote area of the Highlands. Sadly, she developed cancer and died at the age of 21 in 1957. Her orphaned six month baby boy was left to be raised by an aged uncle. At the time illegitimate children were considered social outcasts. No-one ever discovered the identity of the baby’s father which might be hinted at in these letters. They were written to Annie’s married sister Violet who had moved to Edinburgh. I love these letters because they are full of joy and humor even though Annie was already aware of her illness. They also paint a picture of the preoccupations of a country girl and life in the 1950s.
I sold eighteen turkeys
so we can have a night
out in the pub,
going from bad to worse (puff).
Ronald says Ray is a born lunatic,
that was his opinion when he saw
the photos and then the blue jersey.
Your hair looked very nice,
is that a new dress you had on?
I hope it’s nylon
I’m not in favor of wool.
Lots of love and kisses,
I can tell you about it. There was turkey for dinner, then at 3 o’clock tea.
I had my cake with 21 candles. All the family were there listening to Lux
and singing The Railroad Runs Through the Middle of the House.
I think its super, don’t you? Lena brought the record Walking in the Rain.
I like it do you?
Jesse gave me £5 and Connie £2 and Grandad two aprons and Mary a nylon underset
and Margaret a necklace, sparkles all colors and Donald a mohair scarf (awfully warm)
and Sheena nylons and Jane a cameo brooch and Granny a Terrylene blouse.
I’m not in favor of blue.
And from Julie a ‘Le Page’ compact and from Johnny, Black Rose perfume,
very good of him and from Lynn a Coty lipstick, nearly ruby and from Alan a purse.
What a present, not much use with no money and then of course, your presents.
Johnny stayed till midnight… everyone else went off at six.
Lots of love and kisses,
PS A Separate Special Instalment for your Eyes Only:-
BURN AFTER READING
The February air is zesty with unexpected sunshine and the northern wind softened to a breeze. Spurning my faithful duffle coat I reach for the cashmere coat with a fake fur collar that I haven’t worn since leaving London. This coat has been on a long journey and in storage for two years. Its chic appeal seems incongruous in this land of anoraks and woolly hats but why not be different today? Should I wear the sheepskin gloves or the fluffy angora ones? I go with the fluffy. The dusky pink matches my suede boots.
The street is quiet, not even the builders around and no sign of my elderly neighbor who likes to feed the seagulls every morning. A battered red pick-up truck rattles down the road towards the harbor trailing an aroma of fish. I’m heading to the village shop for milk and bananas. As my clumsy fingers place the house key in my coat pocket they dislodge a crumpled piece of yellow paper from the silk lining. It flutters onto the waterlogged front lawn. The sulfur color reminds me of old moss, the sort that clings to old stone walls.
It’s not a discarded shopping list or a receipt for some long-forgotten object of desire but a couple of cinema tickets; Twenty One Grams. It’s a poignant film directed by Alejandro González Iñárritu about how people’s lives intersect and fragment due to a random event. The story reveals the patterns concealed beneath the surface of everyday life. The twenty one grams refers to the amount of weight which is mysteriously lost at the moment of death.
I went to see this film on my thirtieth birthday, the first of March, many years ago now. We ate lunch in the roof top restaurant of an art gallery overlooking the Thames before going to the cinema. After the film we drank cocktails in a trendy bar in Knightsbridge. It was an enjoyable day in a faraway life. Tom and I were both in a good mood and we didn’t mind the cold wind, dodging the rain showers without an umbrella or searching for an elusive parking space. I didn’t complain about the dirty pavements, the crowds or the traffic. At that time I’d never heard of Caithness and living in Scotland was a romantic dream. I was wearing this same grey coat with a leopard fur collar. It felt like the wrong coat for a wet day.
Today I queue in the village shop while two incomers, a mother and teenage daughter stock up on junk food. They are horsey types who have adopted a feral lifestyle. The mother wears a red bandana and a dirty shredded t-shirt any eighties punk would be proud of. Her bare feet are encased in flip flops. Jagged green toenails protrude from a crust of mud. Both women exude a smell reminiscent of rotting potatoes. They spend more than twenty pounds on sweets and chocolate. As they exit the shop Elaine reaches under the counter for the air freshener and sprays it around in a protective circle.
On my way home I wonder if I’m wearing the wrong coat.
Abandoned Croft house, Northern Scotland.
In Medieval times gossip was considered a serious crime in Britain. Perpetrators were physically punished and humiliated, forced to wear a mask of shame called a scold’s bridle and paraded through the town on a leash. The scold’s bridle was an iron muzzle enclosed in a framework that surrounded the head of the accused. The device prevented the person from talking by a bridle-bit which was put in the woman’s mouth and pressed upon the tongue. Sometimes a spike was attached to the bridle-bit, so that the movement of the tongue would cause wounds. Christianity viewed gossip as a sin. Islam, Judaism and the Bahai faith took a similar stance.
I believe it is natural and healthy to take an interest in other people but there is a big difference between negative, malicious gossip and neutral gossip. Passing on factual information is one thing, but twisting the facts and inventing sordid tales to create a frisson of excitement is another.
For example, neutral gossip – Mrs Smith says to her neighbour:- “I saw Susan in the Post Office this morning. She’d just had her hair done and was wearing a new coat.”
Negative gossip:- “I saw Susan in the Post Office this morning. She’d just had her hair done. Pink hair and a leopard print coat at her age – talk about mutton dressed as lamb!” Followed by mutual laughter.
Unfortunately, most gossip tends to be malicious and is carried out by ignorant people with low self-esteem to make themselves seem more interesting. Gossip is akin to an act of violence. It can cause huge damage to the lives of others. Very often the victims of gossip are marked out as different or vulnerable in some way, eg single women, people with mental health problems or those from ethnic minorities.
The old English proverb states, “sticks and stones may break your bones but words will never hurt you”. Not true. Words are powerful. Physical wounds will heal over time whereas emotional damage may last forever. In my local village there have been cases of marriages breaking up, people losing jobs or forced to move away and even suicide due to malicious gossip. It seems small rural communities enjoy gossip and relish the stigmatisation of minorities. However, gossip happens in all types of enclosed communities including schools and workplaces where it is particularly dangerous. Gossip is a form of bullying and with the advent of social media it is a growing problem throughout the world.
Our attitudes to gossip have been moulded by language. Many metaphors used to describe gossip have associations with food or drink, eg spilling the beans, tempting, scuttlebutt, a water cooler moment, grapevine, juicy, delicious, delectable, tidbits, morsels. It’s as if gossip is something to be devoured, digested, a form of nourishment. The writer, David Rakoff complained about the negativity of these expressions as they imply that the pleasures of gossip are those of schadenfreude: that is, one person’s enjoyment at the expense of someone else’s pain. The word ‘gossip’ originated in the Old English ‘godsibb’; god sibling, the godparent of one’s child and usually a close friend. Shakespeare’s uses of the noun were derogatory: “Shall she live to betray this guilt of ours—A long-tongued babbling gossip?”
If you become the victim of malicious gossip you may feel upset, violated and helpless as rumours and untruths circulate. Challenging or arguing with the instigator is not to be recommended. It is demeaning and only adds fuel to the fire. The best policy, although it can be difficult, is to ignore the whisperers, raise your head up high and pretend you don’t care. When you are forced to meet your accusers be polite but indifferent. Build up your confidence and nurture your self-esteem by treating yourself kindly. Remember your achievements and that you are a strong person. Surround yourself with friends and supporters as much as possible. Do activities that you enjoy. Show the gossips that you don’t need their approval or validation to survive and be happy. Remind yourself that the people who gossip are sad individuals with empty lives. Defamation is the only way they can get their kicks. They are not the type of people you would choose as friends. But do not indulge in gossip yourself. Let others find out for themselves where the truth lies.
I recently bought the small ornament pictured below as a reminder that gossips are insignificant. It is only what you think about yourself that matters.
Dry, overcast, 48 degrees, 14 mph NNE winds.
Man in lumberjack shirt trailing black
labrador unfurls a copy of The Groat.
Swallows dip in thin air. Wind rips
through puddled gutters and turquoise boy
eats jelly crocodile while riding orange bicycle.
Hot Drinks and Cash available at Post Office
and Comfort is half-price.
KS58 OPN Vauxhall Meriva double parks.
Man wearing sunglasses climbs out of monster truck.
Sun breaks for four and a half minutes.
Seagull nicks old chip and crisp packet flits.
Blue Ford Focus makes U turn.
BAR-TEC alarms as pink twins pass by
and pony tails pass by.
Bald man with earring smiles
and boy with green helmet cries.
Rizza’s Ice Cream for sale at The Cross Café.
Hooded crow keens from lamp post.
Wanna-be gangsta rapper with yellow base-ball cap
and sweatpants buys Tennants, drinks the other
side of the street empty. Grey windows reflect fast
low clouds, cold, 24 mph NNE winds, heavy rain forecast
as sparrows search for crumbs.